Tuesday, July 4, 2006

SAHM, I am

If it was for The Boy you would do it.
The conversation that started it all.

The conversation that I began after months of knowing that Cinderella was going to a 1/2 day summer camp.
The conversation that I began knowing that it was being ASSumed by all [myself included] that I would be the elected driver.

I am SAHM. SAHM, I am.
The conversation in which I stuck up for my rights as a person who is worthy of more consideration than what was being given.

The camp drop off/pick up times fall right in the middle of The Mouse's morning and afternoon naps. Noone seems to have given that any thought. I would like You to have BioMom or someone else take care of transporting Cinderella since I can't do it.
If we were talking about The Boy you would do it. There wouldn't be a problem.
He was right.
Because... IF it were The Boy we were talking about we would would have decided on his summer plans together.
Because... IF it were The Boy we were talking about we would have considered the other two children and how/if they would be affected.

Because... IF it were The Boy we were talking about We would have shared the responsibility of transportation.
(As we did with His preschool but which somehow fell by the wayside and became my sole responsibility. But that's another story.)
Because... IF it were The Boy we were talking about there would have been no ASSumptions.
Because it's NOT The Boy we are talking about that this dilemma has surfaced.

Because noone thought to ask me and instead made assumptions.
I am SAHM. SAHM, I am.
The answer, dears, is NO you see.
I will not do it. You should have asked me.
I will not drive her here, nor there.
I will not drive her anywhere.
You were Wrong to think because I am SAHM.
That I can't say no. Because... Yes. I. Can.

4 comments:

daionara said...

HOORAH!!! You go girl!! Just because we have the choice(because until January I too was a SAHM) to be home helping our children, does NOT give them the right to consider you lazy, unimportant and ready/able/willing to do whatever they want. Hopefully your husband and his ex will figure this out.

InterstellarLass said...

Good for you for not letting them walk all over you.

:o) said...

I think that was mean and unfair of him to say to you. I'm glad you are sticking up for yourself. It is difficult to do.

stepblog said...

Good for you. Very very good for you!!

The problem I run into is I abhor conflict so much that I end up doing nearly anything she wants to avoid the conflict. Luckily, my husband does not suffer from this same affliction. "I have no trouble telling her no," he says.