Wednesday, September 2, 2009

A New Chapter

I know, I know.
It's been a while and you're wondering "Now why don't she write?"
If you've stuck around long enough to catch this update, I thank you.
I hope I do not disappoint.

The castle has been filled with turmoil since March.
Several court dates took place with no solution to the problems at hand. Prince Charming let Maleficent get away with continued violations to her visitation stipulation for reasons only he can explain.
Now Cinderella has to face the judge and explain in her own words what she has been subjected to over the past several years. She has had months to think about it, and the reality of what's at stake has had ample time to sink in. Whether she has the strength to be as truthful with the judge as she has been with us remains to be seen.
The verdict will be in on Monday.
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In the meantime, I have started a new chapter to my fairytale - one in which the second wife becomes the ex-wife.
I do not know what this means for my blog though at present I can see it creating a whole new perspective on stepparenting - as I have no intentions of dropping out of Cinderella's life and Prince Charming and I hope to work out an amicable custody/visitation schedule that accommodates all three of our kids.
Much needs to be sorted - most importantly my head.
I hope you will understand my absence a bit more and forgive my erratic posting schedule as I do not know how to wrap my head around what needs to get done.
I have been through divorce once before with Prince Charming, fighting WITH him shoulder to shoulder AGAINST Maleficent.
Now it's my turn.
Oh, the irony.

27 comments:

Marty, a.k.a. canape said...

I'm so sorry. Very. And I hope you are alright. Or will be soon.

had enough said...

I am sorry to hear that ...

The ex-expat said...

I'm really sorry to hear that.

The Amburgular said...

I am so sorry to hear about all the turmoil, please take care of yourself during this difficult time.

Renee said...

I've followed your blog for a long time, just never commented. I'm not a step-parent, so I didn't really have much to add. Although I love(d) reading about your fight for Cinderella. I'm so very sorry to hear that the fairy tale is over, and I wish you nothing but the best in your new future. I hope you and PC can come to an understanding for Cinderella and visitation rights. Will be sending good thoughts your way.

Lucy C said...

I'm so sorry... wishing this could all be worked out...

Jenn (Life's Sweet Melody) said...

I'm so sorry to hear about this...I hope you're able to work things out with him peacefully.

Marion & Calum's honeymoon said...

I am so so sorry to hear how things have turned out, although having followed your blog, read all your posts and related to them completely I can completely understand. I'm sure this isn't a decision that you and PC have taken lightly and I hope that soon things become easier for you - both of you - and the kids. You deserve a chance to concentrate on you for a while and do what's right for your whole family. Sometimes that's not living in the same house anymore. I am always at loggerheads with my other half over his reluctance to take any kind of control and I'm about where I'm sure you are with it as well. I hope when things get a bit more settled for you that you do start writing again as I look forward to your posts. It's really made a difference to know that I'm not the only one. I know I'm just some random person across the pond but I hope from the comments you get that you know we're all thinking of you and sending good thoughts your way. Best of luck x

The Evil Step-mom said...

I just started reading your blog during your "hiatus" and really enojyed your perspective on things. I was hoping you would start writing again, but obviously not with such sad news. Hopefully since you and PC have already been through this (even though it was on the same side) you both will be able to be a lot more amicable so you don't put Hansel and Gretel in the same situation as Cinderella. Best of luck!

Just Me :) said...

I (along with everyone else) am so sorry to hear your news. The irony is that I'm coming to a point in my life when I may become the ex-wife as well. I hope for you all the wisdom I hope for myself as you enter this change in your life. I'm so glad you updated, it's just sad that it had to be with troubling news.

Lynn said...

This sucks. There's no other way to put it. Even though I don't actually know you personally, as a Wicked Stepmonster myself (actually, "Frickin' Stepmonster is my given moniker thanks to my own Cinderella) I relate to what you go through and I have confidence you'll handle this with the same grace you do everything else. And I think it says ALOT that you and PC are working out a way for you to remain in Cindy's life. She needs your stability and love, given the hand she was dealt with at birth. I wish you much luck and a ton of peace in the coming weeks!

Shannon said...

I too am very sorry you are going through this difficult time. Like you I was right by my ex's side as he fought for his kids. It's so difficult especially when you have invested so much into these kids that aren't even biologically yours. I will be thinking of you and hoping that things are a smooth process for you.

Heather (Igmom) said...

I'm sorry to hear how things have turned out. I keep missing you on Twitter, and was wondering how you were doing. I, like several other posters, have enjoyed your blog and hoped you and PC would overcome the frustrations of his ex-wife.

I hope Cinderella able to be honest w/ the judge. I hope this will elevate some of the tension between you and PC. We're here for you if you need to vent. *Hugs*

Wendi said...

I'm so sorry for everything you must have gone through to get to this point. I'm excited actually to hear how you work things out with respect to staying in Cindy's life.. I'm sure it will mean a lot to her that you don't give up on HER. Hang in there sweetie.

loonyhiker said...

I too am so sorry for this turmoil in your life. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Maternal Mirth said...

I am so sorry to hear that... I can only offer a cyber hug and prayers.

HUG

Jane said...

As a step parent myself. I have read your blog on and off for a while now. I'm coming out of the woodwork to express my sympathies in what I know is never a fun time.

Good luck to Cinderella today.

Pretend Mommy said...

I have followed your blog and read all your posts. You have given me an insight into being a better stepmother not to mention a better person. I offer you my thanks.

I am sorry to hear of the current happenings in your life. I'm sure there will be ups and downs but I know you will always keeps the children as the number one priority.

Second said...

Wicked- so glad to see you back and as the wise old woman says "sh*t happens". It's admirable that you are working to keep Cindy in your life (on both your parts) and hopefully the undoubted wealth of info you got from PC's last ordeal will make this one run that much more smoothly. Good fortune smacked me in the face last March when I found your blog and couldn't stop reading until I was up to speed. It saved me from the fumes of evil emitted from the Malificent in my tale. It gave me enough oxygen to keep fighting our battle. A battle that's far from over - although we hope to see court before 2010. We fight daily for our 4yr old male "Cindy" and that fight has caused our marriage to teter-totter alot. The teter-totter has stopped for you, its not the end of the world to move on to the jungle gym(unless you're 4, but that's another story...). There is lots more at the playground, he heads for swings, you hit up the slide. As long as you're both still at the same playground watching over all your kids, you're doing the best thing you can. Sorry for the epic novel just wanted you to know that no matter how and when the chapter changes, it's a long time before the book is over and there are many of us supporting you, near and far. Good luck and God Bless.

StepMom Magazine said...

Just recently started reading your story. I echo the others in sending good wishes your way.

Erin Crista said...

I'm sorry to hear that... sending good vibes your way.

The Wicked Stepmonster said...

I am so sorry. However, I am absolutely thrilled to see that you have no intention of dropping out of Cinderella's life. What a very, very lucky girl to have a stepmom like you.

May your road to this new chapter be as smooth as possible.

Mean Stepmom said...

I often wondered why you never updated the blog, and now I know. I hate to hear this kind of news, but I want to wish you peace and blessings on your new journey and in your efforts to remain active in Cinderella's life. Take care...

mathcutie said...

You are the second person today that I've read a posting like this!

You are so brave to post this, and I'm glad you did.

Change is so flippin' scary, but chin up, we love you!

Lauren said...

I am terribly sorry for the turmoil and difficulty that you and your family have had to face. It is a tough job being a stepmother, but the humor and perspective that you offer to us with your writing is quite helpful and always enjoyed. Thank you for sharing your story with us, difficult as it may have been at times and may yet prove to be. Your children - including Cinderella - are blessed to have you in their lives, and I hope that PC realizes that he has been blessed to have your help and companionship too, despite how things may turn out in the end.

SaraKate said...

I'm so sad to hear all this.

As a step-mom whose marriage also suffered turmoil (largely thorugh the machinations of the bio-mom), I'm sorry that your fairy tale is over.

The only good thing to come of this - having seen what Maleficent has put Cinderella through, you know exactly what NOT to do with your divorce. Good luck.

Anonymous said...

I actually had tears in my eyes reading your post. Life and people can sometimes be so complicated, but thank you for sharing your experiences in such a coherent, human and beautiful way... all my best wishes to you!