God, reading about her mother's fit and selfishness makes me want to grab that child and never look back. I hope the judge protects Cinderella's rights now.
Is this the one and only Wicked Step mom I used to fiollow religlously on MSN? You might remember me as Hollie aka Celestialmom aka now CommonCentsMom.
I am so sick of the outbursts and irrational behavior. When are they ever going to learn that just because they had them doesn't make them solely theirs? Skankzilla has gone so far as to say they are "her kids" and that my significant other has no "right" to them. She alienated them for a good year and now does everything she can to badmouth us. Last week, she made a point of getting into a confrontation on the phone with me in front of her oldest. How embarrassing for the oldest as she apologized to me Monday night for her mother's behavior. She said "I'm really sorry that Skankzilla and Gaetano were mean to you". Gaetano is the Skankzilla what Diablo is to Maleficent. I call him Gaetano because he not only takes his Italian heritage to a sickening extreme but also because she and him made a fake Facebook profile and thought I was going to be stupid enough to add it. You can take the girl out of the trailer but you can't take the trailer out of the girl.
I am not sure if I am comforted or distressed that someone else is living a life so close to my own. But for just a minute, it is nice to know I am not alone in the insanity, that my surreal life is not so surreal after all. :-)
I dread the day my exhuband and I go back to court. We havent had to but I am going to assume we will one day. Unfortunately my kids will be old enough to be aware of it. Ugh.
It gets worse....Skankzilla had a 30 minute convo with her oldest.........and about an hour later the child was straight mean to me. She said that my house was eerie and creepy....then lied to her dad about what she said so her dad yelled at me. Then, she went to school today and got in trouble for being overly aggressive. I'm ready to lose it!
Okay so here is the latest from my darling's former wife. She apparently got offended at an inside joke. See, I have a couple of friends and relatives who LOVE to bilk their more successful friends and relatives for money. It's become an affectionate joke between all of us. So anyway, we were messing around and on myspace I put on my status something about gold digging and how I was glad I don't do it........
So anyway, last night, she e-mails her ex husband with this tirade and all of these demands. At the end of the e-mail, she decided to add that she doesn't like that I'm making comments about her on my My Space page. So either she has a guilty conscience or she is just picking a fight. I think that latter rather than the former is true.
So today, I get home to send pictures to my sister and see that the ex wife has e-mailed me on My Space. You have to read bottom to top to truly grasp the madness. All this from a woman who, about a month ago, yelled at me and told me to never call her fucking house again when I thought there was an emergency with the children during one of their visits. I was on the phone and saw that she called and since my darling was sleeping, I thought I would call and see what she needed. She wasn't calling about anything except to fight then got angry and pulled the whole f-bomb tirade and told me to never f-ing contact her unless it is an emergency. Note that she is the one who contacted me. Also note how upset she got when I reasoned with her.
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From: To: Erika sure Erika whatever you say. If that is true, please accept my apologies. it was just embarassing receiving those. Judging from your past outbreaks I assumed. I only have history to go off of. Anyway sorry to interupt your day.
----------------- Original Message ----------------- From: Erika To: Date: Apr 22, 2009 4:38 PM Subject: RE: Grow up
I do not have to justify myself or my statements to you. It was a flipping inside joke between me and someone who is always bilking their friends and family for money so just stop! ----------------- Original Message ----------------- From: To: Erika Date: Apr 22, 2009 3:31 PM Subject: RE: Grow up
do you hear yourself? You sound ten. Enough contact has been made. I am in no way trying to drive a wedge between you and Eddie. (awweee do you call him that too?) You are a real piece of work. What is Bill going to do to me. Take away my birthday? Ooooohhh, he already helped take away my kids. There's nothing left to take away. Bottom line here Erika you know you are posting those messages about me. Who else would you refer to as a screwed up gold digger. Those kinds of things are hurtful and just not true. ----------------- Original Message ----------------- From: Erika To: Date: Apr 22, 2009 4:24 PM Subject: RE: Grow up
What are you talking about and why are you contacting me? This has nothing to do with your children. According to the "rules" you made regarding contact between you and I, our contact was to be limited to emergency matters that involved your children. However, this is not an emergency matter regarding your children. Instead, this is yet another attempt at you manipulating the situation to suit you, another attempt at driving a wedge between Eddie and I, and another attempt at you insulting me just to try to hurt me. Knock it off. Inside jokes between me and the people close to me are none of your business. Do you have a guilty conscience or are you really just trying to fight with me when I've given you no reason to do so?
As far as you having never done a single thing to me, I think we both know the truth. Yelling in front of your children so loudly that one of them apologizes to me for your inappropriate behavior? Calling my house eerie and junky? Saying cruel things like I will "never have children" and I will "never get married"? I would suggest you stop acting like a victim here and follow the "rules" you made regarding contact.
This is being forwarded to Eddie. It will, of course, be forwarded to Bill. Additionally, it will be printed out shortly and faxed to Bill.
Best,
Erika
----------------- Original Message ----------------- From: To: Erika Date: Apr 22, 2009 2:02 PM Subject: Grow up
These little messages are very unecessary. How old are you? Im in Ga minding my own business. I don't get involved with your life. What is your problem? When the children are adults, I am going to show these to them and show them your attempt to torment me. I don't expect you to understand what I feel but it is the worst pain in the world that a mother could feel. And you want to throw jabs at me. Why? Thats just mean. I have never did a single thing to you. Are you crazy?
It's almost midnight and I have just completed your most recent blog entry. cheers to you WS! reading your last 3 years in the last 3 days (mostly) gives me hope that my actions as a parent will out-weigh my lack of legal right as my stepson grows. he's just 3.5 and already subject to some very negative circumstances. I have hope that someday he will rise above the evil as your Cinderella seems to be (well as much as any teen can). keep writing, i'll keep reading.
Where have you gone? You haven't posted or twittered in ages. I hope everything is great for you right now and that you are enjoying life too much to post.-x
Hi Wicked Stepmom, I just discovered your blog last night/this morning after tossing and turning about my current situation. I read through pretty much all of your blogs and I must say you've given me...I can't say hope...a reality check, I guess. After reading your continuing story I'm both thankful and depressed :P Thankful because I feel like I have a better, more realistic vision of my future, and depressed because it probably won't get any easier. But, as I told my SO, I wouldn't trade any of it for the benefit of being with him. You've inspired me to start writing down my own story, so that I can vent and maybe get some help from the Stepmom community.
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God, reading about her mother's fit and selfishness makes me want to grab that child and never look back. I hope the judge protects Cinderella's rights now.
I read your blog when I find myself in the midst of my own biomom drama. It never ends.
Is this the one and only Wicked Step mom I used to fiollow religlously on MSN? You might remember me as Hollie aka Celestialmom aka now CommonCentsMom.
I am so sick of the outbursts and irrational behavior.
When are they ever going to learn that just because they had them doesn't make them solely theirs? Skankzilla has gone so far as to say they are "her kids" and that my significant other has no "right" to them. She alienated them for a good year and now does everything she can to badmouth us. Last week, she made a point of getting into a confrontation on the phone with me in front of her oldest. How embarrassing for the oldest as she apologized to me Monday night for her mother's behavior. She said "I'm really sorry that Skankzilla and Gaetano were mean to you". Gaetano is the Skankzilla what Diablo is to Maleficent. I call him Gaetano because he not only takes his Italian heritage to a sickening extreme but also because she and him made a fake Facebook profile and thought I was going to be stupid enough to add it.
You can take the girl out of the trailer but you can't take the trailer out of the girl.
I am not sure if I am comforted or distressed that someone else is living a life so close to my own. But for just a minute, it is nice to know I am not alone in the insanity, that my surreal life is not so surreal after all. :-)
Nicely stated, Cinderella. I think she's got it down.
I dread the day my exhuband and I go back to court. We havent had to but I am going to assume we will one day. Unfortunately my kids will be old enough to be aware of it. Ugh.
It gets worse....Skankzilla had a 30 minute convo with her oldest.........and about an hour later the child was straight mean to me. She said that my house was eerie and creepy....then lied to her dad about what she said so her dad yelled at me. Then, she went to school today and got in trouble for being overly aggressive. I'm ready to lose it!
wow. she's gonna turn out (already it) just fine!
Wicked? Are you alright? Where are you? Are you giving us the silent treatment? Please come back! I promise we'll change! {hee hee}
Okay so here is the latest from my darling's former wife. She apparently got offended at an inside joke. See, I have a couple of friends and relatives who LOVE to bilk their more successful friends and relatives for money. It's become an affectionate joke between all of us. So anyway, we were messing around and on myspace I put on my status something about gold digging and how I was glad I don't do it........
So anyway, last night, she e-mails her ex husband with this tirade and all of these demands. At the end of the e-mail, she decided to add that she doesn't like that I'm making comments about her on my My Space page. So either she has a guilty conscience or she is just picking a fight. I think that latter rather than the former is true.
So today, I get home to send pictures to my sister and see that the ex wife has e-mailed me on My Space. You have to read bottom to top to truly grasp the madness. All this from a woman who, about a month ago, yelled at me and told me to never call her fucking house again when I thought there was an emergency with the children during one of their visits. I was on the phone and saw that she called and since my darling was sleeping, I thought I would call and see what she needed. She wasn't calling about anything except to fight then got angry and pulled the whole f-bomb tirade and told me to never f-ing contact her unless it is an emergency. Note that she is the one who contacted me. Also note how upset she got when I reasoned with her.
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From:
To: Erika
sure Erika whatever you say. If that is true, please accept my apologies. it was just embarassing receiving those. Judging from your past outbreaks I assumed. I only have history to go off of. Anyway sorry to interupt your day.
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: Erika
To:
Date: Apr 22, 2009 4:38 PM
Subject: RE: Grow up
I do not have to justify myself or my statements to you. It was a flipping inside joke between me and someone who is always bilking their friends and family for money so just stop!
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From:
To: Erika
Date: Apr 22, 2009 3:31 PM
Subject: RE: Grow up
do you hear yourself? You sound ten. Enough contact has been made. I am in no way trying to drive a wedge between you and Eddie. (awweee do you call him that too?) You are a real piece of work. What is Bill going to do to me. Take away my birthday? Ooooohhh, he already helped take away my kids. There's nothing left to take away.
Bottom line here Erika you know you are posting those messages about me. Who else would you refer to as a screwed up gold digger. Those kinds of things are hurtful and just not true.
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: Erika
To:
Date: Apr 22, 2009 4:24 PM
Subject: RE: Grow up
What are you talking about and why are you contacting me? This has nothing to do with your children. According to the "rules" you made regarding contact between you and I, our contact was to be limited to emergency matters that involved your children. However, this is not an emergency matter regarding your children. Instead, this is yet another attempt at you manipulating the situation to suit you, another attempt at driving a wedge between Eddie and I, and another attempt at you insulting me just to try to hurt me. Knock it off. Inside jokes between me and the people close to me are none of your business. Do you have a guilty conscience or are you really just trying to fight with me when I've given you no reason to do so?
As far as you having never done a single thing to me, I think we both know the truth. Yelling in front of your children so loudly that one of them apologizes to me for your inappropriate behavior? Calling my house eerie and junky? Saying cruel things like I will "never have children" and I will "never get married"? I would suggest you stop acting like a victim here and follow the "rules" you made regarding contact.
This is being forwarded to Eddie. It will, of course, be forwarded to Bill. Additionally, it will be printed out shortly and faxed to Bill.
Best,
Erika
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From:
To: Erika
Date: Apr 22, 2009 2:02 PM
Subject: Grow up
These little messages are very unecessary. How old are you? Im in Ga minding my own business. I don't get involved with your life. What is your problem?
When the children are adults, I am going to show these to them and show them your attempt to torment me. I don't expect you to understand what I feel but it is the worst pain in the world that a mother could feel. And you want to throw jabs at me. Why? Thats just mean. I have never did a single thing to you. Are you crazy?
It's almost midnight and I have just completed your most recent blog entry. cheers to you WS! reading your last 3 years in the last 3 days (mostly) gives me hope that my actions as a parent will out-weigh my lack of legal right as my stepson grows. he's just 3.5 and already subject to some very negative circumstances. I have hope that someday he will rise above the evil as your Cinderella seems to be (well as much as any teen can). keep writing, i'll keep reading.
Where have you gone? You haven't posted or twittered in ages. I hope everything is great for you right now and that you are enjoying life too much to post.-x
Thinking of you guys. Wishing you luck...
TWS-it's been a month at least....whats up? Your loyal followers are getting more than a little concerned.....
I see I'm not the first to come by and look for you. I've missed you on Twitter too.
Are you alright?
Hope everything is ok.
I'm worried too. If you can, just leave us an "I'm alive" post because we care about you. <3
Hi Wicked Stepmom, I just discovered your blog last night/this morning after tossing and turning about my current situation. I read through pretty much all of your blogs and I must say you've given me...I can't say hope...a reality check, I guess. After reading your continuing story I'm both thankful and depressed :P Thankful because I feel like I have a better, more realistic vision of my future, and depressed because it probably won't get any easier. But, as I told my SO, I wouldn't trade any of it for the benefit of being with him. You've inspired me to start writing down my own story, so that I can vent and maybe get some help from the Stepmom community.
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