Wednesday, March 18, 2009

Instant Karma's Gonna Get You

It might not be instant per se BUT my faith in what-comes-around-goes-around has once again been restored.
A court date as finally been set so Prince Charming can address the months years of Maleficents' spiteful and deliberate violations to her visitation stipulation.
Unfortunately it took last Friday's episode to speed things up - mostly thanks to an order of protection that was filed and served on Cinderella's behalf which temporarily suspends all visitation with Maleficent until next week's court date.
(If Maleficent can't control her mouth over the fact that Cinderella can't go SWIMMING, surely she will not handle being taken back to court very well. And Cindy has suffered enough thanks to that broad's missing sensitivity chip.)
The judge NOW sees the urgency of getting this case brought to court so the issues at hand can be addressed.
And (hopefully) STOPPED.
Disparaging comments. Emotional and psychological abuse. Arbitrary adjustments to her pick up and drop off times. Failure to communicate or accept her court ordered responsibilities.
It all must end. Cinderella is being hurt at the hands of her "mother." And it's not fair.

Cinderella is relieved that Prince Charming is making progress to protect her.
Relieved that she gets a brief reprieve from having to go to Maleficent's for the next week.
Still she is apprehensive over having to talk to her mother on the phone, knowing "how Mommy gets" and worried what she will have to say about being dragged back to court and not being allowed to see her preshus baby.
There is no guarantee that Maleficent will hold her tongue. There never is. The best we could give Cinderella is the empowerment to hand the phone over to her Dad or me if she hears something that upsets her.

Yeah, instant karma's gonna get you.
Maleficent... You better get yourself together darlin'. Join the human race.


kelly said...


loonyhiker said...

If she talks to her mom on the phone, can the conversation be recorded? Can C. tell her mom, this call is being recorded? That might help M. watch what she says to C. I am so glad C. has a break from M. and you go to court soon!

mathcutie said...

Good idea loony! Good luck to you all.

Anonymous said...

I am always amazed at the similarities between your experiences and mine - our stepdaughters are close to the same age, have wildly cycling, unpredictable, manipulative moms, etc. It is a hard road, and I am glad for your sake, Prince Charming's and Cinderella's that the judge is taking things seriously and protecting Cinderella from her mom. Too often, I think, dangerous biological relationships are protected simply because of a blood connection. I have my fingers crossed for all of you.

movin down the road said...

you're a good stepmum. you really care.

Laura said...

Just found your blog. I can't wait to come back and read more.

I'm a Mom of 3 & I have been in a committed relationship with a man for 5 years who has 4 kids of his own. Although we are not married they are my step children by every other sense.

I love them & care for them as if they were my own, as well struggle with all the aspects that step parenting can bring.

I have come to believe that step parenting is a more thankless job than parenting your own children.

stepmom2_3 said...

I sympathize with you over the legal process and court date delays. In Canada, you can get a court date in two weeks, BUT...the person you are taking to court is able to postpone once and, as we found out, further delay by asking for a "meeting" to discuss the situation.

We started our long road to shared custody of my husband's three children last June, we began filing for court in mid-December and after several postponements the situation has been somewhat resolved. I'm glad that our mountains of evidence (emails, text messages, recorded phone calls, detailed journal entries) did not have to get dragged through court, but they did sway her lawyer to pressure her into giving up shared custody. In some ways it would have been nice to have a judge read everything she has done and said to the kids so that she could be put in her place, b/c she thinks she is invincible.

The kids started their one week with us, one week with mom yesterday. The kids are delighted and so are we. Biomom...well, she continues to find ways to make our lives miserable.

Your comment about M. lacking a "sensitivity chip"...that's the situation with our biomom too.

Susan said...

I can't wait to catch up on your blog...I've been dying to find other step moms who will post and talk openly!

New Follower!

PS... my husband's ex is a crazy narcissist who literally drives us crazy. We are learning to deal. Slowly.

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