Friday, October 24, 2008

I See The Bad Moon Rising

A one hour phone call with Cinderella's school.

Concerns over her (reported) behavior by a worried friend.

Social Worker and Guidance Counselor called in.

She confirms. Cries in their office as she explains the stress of her parents' troubled relationship and her mother's subsequent (and contributory) behavior.

This is Maleficent's visitation weekend. PrinceCharming is FLOORED and en route to Cinderella's school to try and provide some reassurance before she heads off to god-knows-what this weekend.

He is torn between wanting to swoop in to protect his daughter from further pain while following the legal constraints of the custody agreement.

I don't know what will happen from here. But I see trouble on the way.


loonyhiker said...

I feel so bad for you. I remember going through that many years ago. My girls called me Mama and their biological mother by her first name. She was also bipolar so needless to say, visits were...interesting. She also changed husbands like candy, smoked, and who knows what else. All we could do is offer the girls support and love until they reached the age to make their own decisions. Of course it made it hard because we refused to badmouth mom and she constantly badmouthed us. Drs. told us it would not help if we badmouthed her. Finally the girls saw things with their own eyes and were pretty much estranged from her before she died. But that was through her own fault and I don't feel guilty. I also tell my girls not to feel guilty. I wish I could say something to make you feel better but all I can think of is: this too shall pass. Don't let it tear you and your husband apart (because that can also be a subconscious or conscious motive of exwife). By always working on making your (hubby and you) relationship stronger, you will help empower your stepdaughter and weaken the exwife.

Meritt said...

I have a twelve year old daughter too and I know how 'dramatic' she and her friends can get. So many things could easily be handled and come to 'pass' with patience and a families support.

Unfortunately once the school busy-bodies get involved they actually make situations far worse! Things the girls would be emotional about and get over turn into big blow outs when school officials with over inflated ego's get involved.


I'm sorry you have to go through this - it upsets MY stomach just thinking about the drama. I like quiet boring lives. LOL.

Lani said...

I am so sorry :(
Sending lots of love and hugs to Cinderella.

Stepmonster said...

She's hurting but I think she'll be okay. She's talking to her friends- confiding, venting whatever. The friend felt concerned enough to share with an adult- probably a true friend. She obviously wasn't asking for the drama or it wouldn't have taken a friend to get adults involved- she would have brought them in herself, for the attention. Sorry she's hurting and not with you to console. :(

mathcutie said...

If C. needs a different adult between her and mom that could be some stress off you and PC. Don't selfishly assume all the stress for yourself! {sarcastic}, Let M. have some too ;-)

Another Mama said...

SO frustrating!!!

But it's good that she can talk about it. Most kids will try and hide there feelings. But it great that she's expressing it around people different people...People that she feels safe with.

Good will come of this. I really will. Hang in there.

Blueydmuse said...

I hope things are better for her today... it would be nice if her mother could put Cinderella's needs before her own and let her child have some peace... but that would be asking for a miracle, wouldn't it?

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Layne said...

What happened? Is Cinderella okay?
I just read your blog from the beginning and you all have a spot in my heart now.


P.S. for some reason I get an error when I try to load your cafepress page...