tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6808149.post7786971312135278942..comments2023-12-21T04:18:32.670-05:00Comments on The Wicked Stepmom: Depression HurtsWicked Stepmomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07512939493170663368noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6808149.post-8302482499767121472011-05-10T00:56:19.504-04:002011-05-10T00:56:19.504-04:00Turn to God (Jesus) there is nothing he cant chang...Turn to God (Jesus) there is nothing he cant change I am living proofAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6808149.post-11878948155476564182011-05-06T11:08:07.711-04:002011-05-06T11:08:07.711-04:00I think a balanced mix of the advice you have rece...I think a balanced mix of the advice you have received so far will work well. Children aren't stupid, so not being honest with them will only sow the seeds of distrust. Age appropriate honesty is a win/win for everyone.<br /><br />However, I'm sure you know already that neglecting to mention that he loves them would be in poor form. Parents who are depressed still love and care for their A Not So Wickedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07298244351554837408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6808149.post-19039027366748332972011-05-04T13:33:57.117-04:002011-05-04T13:33:57.117-04:00I am so sorry for what you are going through. I ha...I am so sorry for what you are going through. I have just begun following your blog and want you to know that I relate to your posts on such a personal level. Some of your experiences mirror many of my own in so many ways.You have inspired me to share my stories with others as well! I admire your strength and determination and am sure that your choices for how to help your kids deal with this mommynursehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08436084637416736715noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6808149.post-52880498558201225862011-04-21T01:11:05.459-04:002011-04-21T01:11:05.459-04:00Honest, age appropriate answers that are as stress...Honest, age appropriate answers that are as stress free as possible are always best. "Daddy hasn't been feeling well and is taking time to take care of himself. He misses you and loves you, but sometimes we adults have to take care of our adult size brains so we can give more love to our special babies, like you!"<br /><br />For you, the release and taking care of you, not him is FairieMoonChildhttp://fairiemoonchild.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6808149.post-16857653364694919362011-04-20T07:17:51.503-04:002011-04-20T07:17:51.503-04:00IMO, telling them he has an illness may spark more...IMO, telling them he has an illness may spark more worry than relief. Telling them he is ill and then not being able to speak with him may cause them to think something is seriously wrong with their father(like he's dying). And with the possible eating disorder, that would add more worry to an already worried child.Stories of a Stepmom (2)https://www.blogger.com/profile/11368780120508946027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6808149.post-74369738773308737172011-04-20T02:00:01.608-04:002011-04-20T02:00:01.608-04:00you poor thing. (((((Hugs)))). I do like Marty'...you poor thing. (((((Hugs)))). I do like Marty's suggestion to tell them that he isn't well and is being treated. A vague he's busy may make them feel unwanted, which I'm sure isn't the case. Letting them know he isn't 100% will help them to understand if they have to be gentle with him and if his demeanour has changed significantly when they see him next, without making Suehttp://sueknits.blog.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6808149.post-21574006206411477092011-04-19T23:45:52.108-04:002011-04-19T23:45:52.108-04:00I agree with Stories of a Stepmom. Downplay it as...I agree with Stories of a Stepmom. Downplay it as much as you can. Tell them that Daddy misses them but that he's really busy right now and they just can't stay the night with him. Maybe PC can pull it together enough to see them at a mcdonalds or something some time soon. <br /><br />Best wishes!Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11956170526105416459noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6808149.post-39674762478060623782011-04-19T23:26:05.455-04:002011-04-19T23:26:05.455-04:00I am so sorry you are having to deal with this. As...I am so sorry you are having to deal with this. As far as what to tell the kids, I can tell you from my experience that if you wish to not hurt whatever relationship they may have with their father(and I don't think you do), I would completely downplay this. Do not make a big deal about it. Just tell them that their dad loves them very much but has some very important things to tend to. That Stories of a Stepmom (2)https://www.blogger.com/profile/11368780120508946027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6808149.post-12668028221833633872011-04-19T21:16:03.873-04:002011-04-19T21:16:03.873-04:00Please forgive me if the questions were rhetorical...Please forgive me if the questions were rhetorical. I don't claim to have answers, just support and my own thoughts.<br /><br />I don't think you can keep it from hurting them, but I do think you can try and help them deal with their feelings.<br /><br />As for what to tell them? I think (and I can only guess because I've never been there) I would tell them that he is sick and gettingcanapehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17112237898693827431noreply@blogger.com