tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6808149.post7643067658798052733..comments2023-12-21T04:18:32.670-05:00Comments on The Wicked Stepmom: A Moment of Clarity... and DreadWicked Stepmomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07512939493170663368noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6808149.post-24051431015027346732009-01-20T15:06:00.000-05:002009-01-20T15:06:00.000-05:00Rose said it perfectly.I see so much of myself in ...Rose said it perfectly.<BR/><BR/>I see so much of myself in this last post. <BR/><BR/>The part that resinates the most with me is the "if I were in her shoes" part. To me, that is the heart of it all. We all live with our choices. This is not about maternal feelings, this is about choices and consequences.<BR/><BR/>In order to subscribe to the mindset that you need to help her because it must Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6808149.post-46898135190848482942009-01-18T21:51:00.000-05:002009-01-18T21:51:00.000-05:00As a fellow stepmom, I have to say that I hope wri...As a fellow stepmom, I have to say that I hope writing this blog and reading our comments is as helpful and comforting to you, as reading what you write has been for me. It is a comfort to know that I am not alone and others have gone through similar circumstances and have dealt with hardship not unlike those in our lives. <BR/>Our Princess is 10. For the first few years I tried to mend an Libbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00235664365317088950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6808149.post-5107280176008494252009-01-18T13:18:00.000-05:002009-01-18T13:18:00.000-05:00Do you know, I recognise myself in what you said t...Do you know, I recognise myself in what you said too...and many other stepmums I know as well. Don't forget to take care of yourself in all this - and don't lose yourself. You are important too.Wicked Steppiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04698316358808416974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6808149.post-70006287786946734062009-01-17T20:50:00.000-05:002009-01-17T20:50:00.000-05:00You're so right--being the caretaker is exhausting...You're so right--being the caretaker is exhausting, and being the caretaker in a stepfamily is doubly so. Sending good thoughts your way!Meeshahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17702598830402183932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6808149.post-44779932505698032842009-01-16T22:11:00.000-05:002009-01-16T22:11:00.000-05:00Take care of yourself.....that will be the best an...Take care of yourself.....that will be the best and healthyest thing for Cinderella.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6808149.post-75161249663694838302009-01-16T09:05:00.000-05:002009-01-16T09:05:00.000-05:00You know what, most of what I did for my exhusband...You know what, most of what I did for my exhusband when we were married was because I was afraid he would drop the ball. And he always did. BUT, it is not only his responsibility but the Malif. responsibility to get the info in other ways that she may need. The worst is when it has an effect on you or your family, when she doesn't have all her info, for lack of responsibility in getting in or Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6808149.post-23095793639059831692009-01-15T12:25:00.000-05:002009-01-15T12:25:00.000-05:00So many thoughts come to mind when I read your las...So many thoughts come to mind when I read your last few blog posts that it's hard to organize them. <BR/><BR/>1) She's not <I>your</I> responsibility. You can't make her happy, and frankly that's not your job. Your job is making Cinderella and your children happy and safe. As long as the communication with her was working towards that then it made sense, but clearly that's not working now, so cutJessica R.https://www.blogger.com/profile/03195009922804434161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6808149.post-84572292079904765682009-01-15T09:10:00.000-05:002009-01-15T09:10:00.000-05:00Exactly. You cannot rationalize with an irrational...Exactly. You cannot rationalize with an irrational person. You can't know what they want. You can't do anything that will make them happy. I could wrap up a gold bar in $100 bills and give it to the ex as a present and she would complain that it was already her money anyway because I stole it from her when I stole her husband.<BR/><BR/>My gripe about the arrangement you describe (which is where Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6808149.post-85764454452793906322009-01-14T23:43:00.000-05:002009-01-14T23:43:00.000-05:00Holy shit. You make my BM problems seem like nothi...Holy shit. You make my BM problems seem like nothing. You and your family are in my heart.Laynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11036828315994915924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6808149.post-63542283296007199312009-01-14T23:24:00.000-05:002009-01-14T23:24:00.000-05:00Thank you so much for this post. I've got the same...Thank you so much for this post. I've got the same personality traits, wanting to come in and join up and save and heal. I wonder how many stepmoms have that same tendency?survivoremhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08025997708539329962noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6808149.post-61943816583218806802009-01-14T15:39:00.000-05:002009-01-14T15:39:00.000-05:00Hang in there, hon. I know it's not easy and d...Hang in there, hon. I know it's not easy and don't envy you one bit for what you're having to go through. I totally understand when the word "wicked" truly describes the bio mother who is so full of her self hatred & pity she can't see the harm she's doing.<BR/><BR/>Being a care taker doesn't mean it's ok to enable another's bad habits or to set Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6808149.post-13433432061343798992009-01-14T15:12:00.000-05:002009-01-14T15:12:00.000-05:00A page turner for sure! Wow... I found your blog ...A page turner for sure! Wow... I found your blog about 3 weeks ago and I have to admit I'm hooked. I truly enjoy reading your thoughts and angle on things as I can genuinely relate to your struggles. I am wife #3 and I am amazed each and every day at the lack of interest by the biomoms. I don't have any friends that are stepmoms that I can truly speak to about the daily dramas and know that Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6808149.post-64206774750700327242009-01-14T14:50:00.000-05:002009-01-14T14:50:00.000-05:00Hang in there. Focus on Hansel, Gretal, Cinderella...Hang in there. Focus on Hansel, Gretal, Cinderella & Prince Charming. They are your family.<BR/><BR/>I've had many a BF with exes and baby momma drama. Its never easy and I'm sure is 100% moreso in a marriage. Be strong, be tough and remember, a happy ending is awaiting.Shannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05813234346253993436noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6808149.post-81433926080756314322009-01-14T14:44:00.000-05:002009-01-14T14:44:00.000-05:00I've been there too. It sounds like you've bent ov...I've been there too. It sounds like you've bent over backwards to make things easy for everyone but yourself. Don't parent the parents. <BR/><BR/>I am wife #3. Wife #1 was great about working out the details for the boys. Wife #2 was nuts and could barely function. But I found the more I got involved the more she resented me and my husband and took it out on her son (no physically. She'd Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6808149.post-103457627967065782009-01-14T14:36:00.000-05:002009-01-14T14:36:00.000-05:00I have been there. From a different angle, but I ...I have been there. From a different angle, but I think you should step back. If M fails to pick up the princess, well than you'll have to pick up the pieces no doubt, but let M fail, over and over if necessary.<BR/><BR/>I now get on well with both of my ex-wives. They had a volatile relationship. Ex#2 had a break through recently, and in tears, spoke of wanting to mend that relationship. dcmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07537600841437951644noreply@blogger.com